I have a lot of acquaintances. Dozens of friends. But only a few ladies who I can genuinely call "my girls." And even then, it ultimately comes down to autonomy. 'Cuz at the end of the day ur still all u really got.
With the exception of 2 or 3 vagina toters, my closest friends have all been dicks. Not just because I click better with dudes, and not just 'cuz I have a low tolerance for catty bitches - but mostly 'cuz the past females I've invested deep friendships with have for the most part, been disappointing.
Growing up I've come to the obvious realization that not everybody thinks the same way I do when it comes to balancing ones priorities (Duh!). And that's fine.
Nothin but love.
People are different.
I'm being too judgemental and needy.
I get it, I do. But while "those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter," I also believe that ur friendships should matter just as much as ur relationships. And depending on the circumstance, sometimes even more. It's true, real friends can live on opposite sides of the planet, not have spoken to each other in weeks, and then still pick up right where they left off. But that doesn't mean that just because someone is within reach, we should take them for granted. If we can devote so much of ourselves to our relationships, and put so much effort into nurturing them, there should be no reason we can't do the same for our friendships. Afterall, it's ur friends who were there before, during, and after ur relationships anyway.
I appreciate all the people I've met in my life - even the bad ones (Except for my moms bastard-ass ex boyfriend Anthony Guttierez who's grave I would spit on if he died tomorow, WHOAH WHOAH WHOAH OK ANGER MANAGEMENT! lol). While I will always be one of the boys, I know that there is nothing like the bond I share with my girl friends. But perhaps, The Sims said it best when they said that:
"Friends are like plants, if u don't take care of them they wither and die."
And I could sure use a good watering.