Monday, March 14, 2011


It was a loooong weekend, although not long enough if you know what I mean. I currently have a record of 5 unfinished posts that I am just too un-funny, un-witty, and un-smart to complete this morning but I did have a few things I've been wanting to get off my chest. Ever since writing this, I was reminded of a few other cliche concepts that need to get sonned ASAP:

1) You are not allowed to get mad at someone for snooping through your shit unless you are innocent. How the fuck you gonna get mad at your girlfriend for checking your iPhone and finding sext messages you sent your ex then try to pull the invasion of privacy card? It's like walking in on your wife having sex with her boss and her getting pissed at you because you didn't knock first. And honestly, if you were that sloppy 'bout your shit, you deserved to get caught anyway.

Exception to the rule: If you're doing dirty but clean up after your mess and your significant other comes up empty handed, lucky you! But don't give them too much shit for "not trusting you," it doesn't make you off the hook, it just makes you a smooth criminal. Furthermore, the rule no longer applies to you if after the 2nd time you get caught they still take you back. In that case, they probably deserve to get cheated on as much as you deserve to get slapped.

2) You are not allowed to blame Facebook for the demise of your relationship (or the internet in general for that matter). Like my boy Nick said, "Facebook doesn't ruin relationships. PEOPLE RUIN RELATIONSHIPS." Social networking websites are not insecure or jealous. They are not flirts or cheaters. They don't post seductive pictures and leave incriminating comments on them. When will yall ever learn? If you're partner is so crazy that they misinterpret every single "like" on your wall, then leave them or delete your Facebook. It's as simple as that.

3) You are no longer allowed to tell ME (at the very least) to "Stop looking for love," as if I'm on the corner behind a bush with a bear trap and binoculars waiting for my future husband to come along. Stop looking at the greater good in people? OK. Stop falling in love with the potential of a man? Mos def. But I can't stop doing what I never did to begin with. And unfortunately, we don't get to choose who we catch feelings for. What's most annoying is usually the people that tell us to stop looking for love, are the sames ones telling us, "You'll never know until you try. Open your eyes, and your heart. Stop building walls," etc. etc. Well damn, wtf do you want me to do, have a nervous breakdown?

OK, rant over. Feel free to add to the list!


Se7en said...

"And unfortunately, we don't get to choose who we catch feelings for."

True. However we can recognize when something is either good or bad for us. Therefore, we can use our minds in those instances to override the heart.

I can catch feelings for an alcoholic... but once I KNOW she is an alcoholic? Bounce - or take the blame for falling for someone I know is going to only be trouble come later.

We have more control than that...

Sometimes we simply do not wish to believe so.

Mouf.Peace said...

yes. like i always say, "u can't control the way you feel. only the way you respond to those feelings."

Se7en said...


"You'll never know until you try."

I agree - that is a contradiction.

"Open your eyes, and your heart."

I see nothing wrong with this advice. If your eyes are only opened to a specific thing and your heart is closed off to all else... nothing (I am not simply speaking of love) can find you. Not a career, not a destiny, not a dream... nothing.

"Stop building walls."

See aforementioned response. Walls were invented and built specifically to keep things in... or to keep things out. Nothing more... nothing less.

"Mr. Gorbachev, tear down this wall!" (Ronald Reagan Voice)

-Look at the impact tearing down a wall had in that instance (an outstanding metaphor for life).

OH NA NA said...

"open your eyes and you heart, be open to love..." blah blah blah the same friends who told me that are in the suckiest relationships now, I mean, can the relationship be good first? Its good to not walk into things so blindly and naive, I prefer to use caution with matters of the heart.

Se7en said...


"Its good to not walk into things so blindly and naive, I prefer to use caution with matters of the heart."

But is that not what opening your eyes and heart allow you to do - see more clearly?

Without open eyes... would you not be even blinder to matters of the heart? Closed eyes in the instance you are speaking... lead exactly to problems in love and relationships.

Perhaps I do not quite understand your point of view (or statement - "I mean, can the relationship be good first?"). But if I close my eyes as I step into the realms of the physically unknown (say a building perhaps)... I am going to have a lot more difficult time making my way through that structure with closed eyes (blind eyes) than I would had I navigated it with my eyes open.

OH NA NA said...

@ se7en, I see what you are saying, I wrote that comment with one eye open trying hard not to fall asleep but I wanted to leave my comment on this post. I guess I meant to say that people say I need an open heart and eyes for love and claim I have my guard up and that I'm not "open" ...where I see that as being cautious. Some who are very gullible and gung ho on finding "love" overlook a lot of things or point blank "sugar coat" a lot of sh-t while trying to remain "open" or postive or w/e they call it. Being open is like being optimistic and easy to manipulate if someone is giving off the right impressions. I just think feelings need to be protected so its good to have a bit of a wall around the heart; not a huge welcome mat letting anyone in.