Monday, August 10, 2009

500 Days of Summer

After watching 500 Days of Summer Friday night, all my assumptions have been confirmed.

Every woman - no matter how jaded, hurt, or bitter. Every woman - no matter how confident or independent they are, wants to mean the world to another person and be genuinely loved. And no matter how much they may dispute, how much they may boast, or how high the walls around their heart may be, deep down inside they want to love that person back with just the same intensity.

I don't care who the fuck u think or say u are.

Some women may not be as vocal about it. Some may even deny it. And every woman has their own ideal about the meaning of true love. But regardless of all the differences, all women want to experience being in love at one point in their life. And if not ALL women, a good 95% of them. It may not be their #1 priority, hell it may not even be their #10 priority, but somewhere down that long bucket list of to do's and goals is "Fall helplessly, selflessly, unconditionally, spontaneously, irrevocably, inconveniently, head over heels, shout on the top of a mountain top IN LOVE ... even if it's written in the tiniest writing.

Even the most cynical of cynics can be easily swayed when they meet the right person. For instance, I know of this chick who brusied and beaten from past loves gone wrong, swore she hated the idea of a relationship and to some may have even come off as a "man-hater." She was intelligent, beautiful, talented, and married to the hustle. But I couldn't help but "pshh," everytime I'd hear one of her anti-love rants 'cuz she sounded exactly like me 3-4 years ago, which is why I knew she was woofin. But I was also empathetic 'cuz I knew that tryna be a "hard rock when u really are a gem" defense mechanism all too well. Next thing u know she's engaged with a baby on the way.


Perhaps Will Smith explained it best in the movie Hitch when he stated:
"Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept
off my feet today!" Now, she might say "This is a really bad time for me," or
something like "I just need some space," or my personal favorite "I'm really
into my career right now." You believe that? Neither does she. You know why?
'Cause she's lying to you, that's why. You understand me? Lying! It's not a bad
time for her. She doesn't need any space. And she may be into her career, but
what she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder,
stupid," but which one is it? 60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body
language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth. Of course she's going to lie to you! She's a nice person! She
doesn't want to hurt your feelings! What else she going to say? She doesn't even
know you... yet. Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a
beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it, and that's where
I come in. My job is to open her eyes. Basic Principles - no matter what, no
matter when, no matter who... any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet; he just needs the right broom."

So the next time a woman uses one of the above and then some excuses with u, don't get mad, because more than likely she's indeed telling the truth. She is really busy; engulfed by her fledgeling career, and enjoying her me time. Remember, one must love themselves before they can truly love another. But the fact of the matter is, no one is ever too busy. She's just too busy for YOU. Even the President of the United States makes time everyday to have dinner with his wife and kids. She does believe in love (even if she doesn't know it yet) she just isn't in love with you.


krisYEE said...

i can't stop thinking about that damn movie. i bought the sound track. and remind me that i have to show you something about it. lol

Khloe LaRoux. said...

This is an honest post. It's annoying to hear women talk about how love isn't a necessity, and how maybe they're just 'made to be single'.

Nicole said...


Thank you for posting this.

Females are steady trying to play it off like they don`t wanna fall in love.


Every woman wants to be in love.

IDC how many times i get heartbroken or how much I try to play it off like i dont give a damn, deep down inside I still want to find my true love.

I find it funny when females say "I give up" or "Fck it" They know damn well that when the right person comes along, they're gonna be head over heels all over again.

We only say that because we want someone worthy of our love to come along & change that.

Unfortunately some guys don`t understand that or some even take advantage of females who have just gotten their heart broken.

Nonetheless, don`t let no dude break you. Someone`s out there for you. You just haven`t bumped into him yet.


p.s. hope you don`t mind me posting a blog referring to this topic. You got me started & now I wanna write my own take on it.

Mouf.Peace said...

kris, see u sat in ur red chinese dress. practice that accent of urs too.

khloe, thank u. i totally USED TO BE that girl lol.

and nicole, if this post inspired u to write something then go for it! i'd love to read it afterwards :) and sweety, don't worry bruised but NEVER broken. i ain't lookin but when he comes along i ain't neva lettin go haha!

Anonymous said...

You didn't hear me from me but ... I think we got some plagerism on our hands haha vvv
straight jacked your shit, not evenn cool tho'.
But anyways i lovee everything you post. Its so authentic & real. Soo thank you :) .

DJ CMC said...

so after watching tha movie, i totally felt like there's NO hope for me. i kno the ending turned out all good n happy for the main character, but i dunno...i guess in a way im Tom n Summer. Tom: bcuz of the fact that i am that person who puts n devotes all hope/faith, whatever you wanna call it, into love. its something ive been searching for my whole life. then on the other hand i feel like im Summer: i dont know what i want. damn that bitch fate! i dunno if watching that movie screwed me up more or less...ugh...=(