tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post1166078143878713099..comments2023-05-21T01:25:23.634-07:00Comments on www.GIRLSARETHENEWBOYS.COM: Daddy's Little GirlMouf.Peacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15908691959399309476noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post-35986120856793140372010-04-09T12:16:16.782-07:002010-04-09T12:16:16.782-07:00Girl, my mom and dad separated when I was 15 and I...Girl, my mom and dad separated when I was 15 and I still never had any of that stuff. I realize how it affects my relationships now but as much as it can affect me in a negative way it also affects me in a positive way. I've learned from the relationship he had with my mom that I will never let a man dictate my life, and that he has to live for me as much as I am living for him. My mom gave up way too much for him, though I realize she did it for her kids too.<br /><br />(by the way, I just found your blog through Jozen's blog and I like it!)Yesi Jukeboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07754905782288978030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post-26657595481249374842010-03-12T12:30:18.206-08:002010-03-12T12:30:18.206-08:00sue - hi thanks for reading! great, now i gotta bu...sue - hi thanks for reading! great, now i gotta buy brian breakfast or something lol.<br /><br />janie - ur welcome. i don't blame my father at all for my failed relationships. but this was the first time i ever considered him playing a part on y i'd sometimes feel unworthy when one wouldn't work out. however, i still feel no anger or resentment and i'm glad u don't either. it takes too much effort to feel negativity.Mouf.Peacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908691959399309476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post-66640929917039550062010-03-09T18:50:35.781-08:002010-03-09T18:50:35.781-08:00"I wasn't angry, or bitter, or resentful...."I wasn't angry, or bitter, or resentful. I didn't feel he owed me anything either (my mom yes, me? no). As a matter of fact, I felt absolutely nothing towards my father." <br />I definitely hear ya on that. I grew up with a dad until my parents split up when I was 8. It took them 7 years to finally get a divorce and I spent a period of time hating one parent and then the other. Long story short, I think I finally hit that point where I can look at my 'father' and feel nothing. No anger, no resentment, no regret. And I def. don't think he owes me a damn thing. I don't miss having a male figure in my life because I grew up fine anyway. But then again I think my entire emotional life has been defined in terms of failed relationships with men so it ain't anything new. <br />Thanks for this blog - it captures a lot of how I feel about it.Janienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post-77024083266951072422010-03-08T22:20:05.422-08:002010-03-08T22:20:05.422-08:00Thanks for such a personal, open and honest post. ...Thanks for such a personal, open and honest post. (Btw, I'm Sue, Brian's friend)Sue Biscarranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post-7903388839921247582010-03-08T12:58:52.666-08:002010-03-08T12:58:52.666-08:00eun ji - aw thank u so much for sharing ur story w...eun ji - aw thank u so much for sharing ur story with me. i feel as if it's more common for a person to grow up having both parents nowadays, which is sad to think. sounds like u great up to be a fine individual as well!Mouf.Peacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908691959399309476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7732196387438003605.post-17264663548649596762010-03-07T17:57:36.123-08:002010-03-07T17:57:36.123-08:00I hear ya. More than you know. Growing up, I did...I hear ya. More than you know. Growing up, I didn't have a father either. I was always told that he died from a young age, but when I grew older, I was told that the truth would be revealed to me when I was 18. 18 turned to 10, and that's when I found out that my father was alive and well in the PI, had remarried, and had two kids. What's more is that these two kids always knew growing up that they had an older half sister. <br /><br />The circumstances surrounding my father's absence in my life are different. It was a complicated situation, and I don't fault anyone for it. Shizz happens, and my parents handled the situation the best that they could, all things considered. <br /><br />It never bothered me that I didn't have a dad growing up. It still doesn't either, for the most part. I think the thing I miss most is having a father, but not MY father, because it's hard to miss someone you've never known, and it's hard to understand something that you've never had. The only time I really played the 'what if' card was when my mom died. <br /><br />But I think...or I'd like to think that my mom did a good job in raising me to have a good sense of who I am, and what I deserve. She had to play both mom and dad, and I know that she did the best she could. <br /><br />And from your eloquent blogs, I think that your mom did a wonderful job ^^Eun Jinoreply@blogger.com